Blood First...

Family. Mine in particular happens to be a whirlwind of dysfunctional-ism with the boarder lines battling it out over a senseless pawn, my brother. That just plain pisses me off. Here's the dealio....

At the beginning of the year, my mom was informed that TJ's care providers were no longer going to be able to provide care to him due to a lack of funding. Aka, he's quasi getting kicked out by the program. Here's the good news..... TJ doesn't move until mom signs on the dotted line. Now for the bad news....

Mom and I know Princess and Pops pretty well and decided not to say anything until the situation had a resolution. Well that plan back fired when my sister learned of the situation through the house management. But Princess being the well trained drama queen sent out these long ass emails on a diatribe about how hurt she and dad were at not being included. Keep in mind that these two where not there post op for TJ, nor were they there when they were trying to secure funding for TJ, nor were they there when we were dealing with TJ's sexual assault. Well, you hopefully get the idea.

The sidebar issue that really should be in the spot light here is my sister and mother's relationship. My sister has not spoken to my mother in almost 3 years. In addition to that, my mother is not allowed to see the grandchildren. Does Princess not understand how her behavior has driven a wedge in this family deeper than any other stunt I might have pulled as a kid? Does she not get there is a difference between protecting your kids and sheltering them? Oh, wait that's right. I'm not a parent. I couldn't have a fucking clue.

I am judged for my life choices. I don't feel breeding like a jack rabbit is a job. Nor do I feel that marriage is essential to fulfill my sense of spirituality.

So, what do I really think about the situation? Hmmmm...... well it's tricky. I'm certainly conflicted because I know BOTH of them are really good at playing the victim. However, I have a higher expectation for Princess to evolve. Mom's set in her ways. Learn to love and accept her for who she is as a person and not what you want her to be. She cannot do harm to your children. There are worse things that random strangers can do. Pops is a wonderful role model for the kids. What's going to happen the first time he snaps on them?

I finally told my sister not to include me in her mass emails about TJ. I felt this was inappropriate and if she needed to say something to me about him she could contact me directly. Mass emailing the family creates too much of an opportunity for triangulation to occur and I will not enable that behavior.

I could go on and on about the situation but I wouldn't want to compete with Princess.....